The comparison world that we live in today has become one of the biggest dilemmas that people are struggling with when dealing with their own inner self worth.

The explosion of social media everywhere has people comparing their life with others and wondering why they can’t have what they have, even though they don’t even know them.

It’s opening up a Facebook or Instagram feed and seeing a person (or family) on a wonderful vacation in a tropical island, a friend’s brand-new BMW or the most amazing kitchen you have ever seen in some persons social media feed you randomly decided to follow (maybe because they have really awesome taste in décor); for whatever reason it maybe, its detrimental to one’s growth and their own desire to live the life they want to.

Comparing yourself to that person on social media (and even in real life) will not only destroy your self-esteem, it could lead to other issues like financial problems or relationship problems, because you are wanting to be someone other than yourself. I know, I have been there. It wasn’t healthy and I knew it was stopping me from being everything that I want to be in life.

“COMPARISON IS AN ACT OF VIOLENCE AGAINST ONES SELF” -Iyanla Vanzant

These words are a true as they can get. You are beating yourself up over and over again if you keep comparing your life to others.

For one, nothing ever is what it seems and believing so is unrealistic. The struggles in someone’s life maybe hiding behind that wonderful vacation or beautiful new car; you just don’t know.

You need to break through the comparison trap. Take a break from all things social media (for a short bit) and focus on the real you. Set the path for what you want to be doing with your life. Read, meditate, take long walks, write down your passions, just breathe a little. Focus on your goals and no one else’s.

One of the best books I’ve read has been Rachal Cruz “love your life, not theirs “and she hits on this very topic right in the beginning. It’s so very important to your well being and happiness that you search deep within the soul to rid the comparison toxicity for good and bring back the true and wonderful you.

Author: Bonnie K Meyer
An Air Force veteran born and raised in Akron, Ohio. Single-mother raising two beautiful children, avid runner and believes in the inner strength of the soul and that you can do anything you put your mind to. Future goals are in continuing her involvement in empowering women and our youth to build a strong, bright, and equal future for all.
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